You're right, Yazza...my apologies !
The ride leader may well not be a male, could be a pinko, leso, whale loving, tree hugging, mamby-pamby, bi-sexual, Chardonnay sipping, berka wearing dwarf!
So perhaps I should have said: "contact the ride leader ans tell the ride leader what you do and dont feel comfortable with..."
I stand corrected and thank you for pointing it out!
